This week has been a little intense over here. Grayson has been pretty difficult and I haven’t had nearly enough patience. It’s just been a tough stay at home mom week. I’ve lost my temper more times than I’d like to admit and Grayson is reacting to my tension with an increase in tantrums and a down-on-himself attitude.
I’m not sure exactly when my heart shifted but today I realized, maybe I’m the one who needs a time out. Perhaps it’s me who needs to take a minute for some self evaluation. That’s what I tell him time-outs are for: to take few minutes to think about his actions and attitudes, to make better choices, to gain a new perspective. The hard truth is: I am the one who sets the tone in our home, not him. And if I could remain calm, see the good, build him up with my words, validate him, spend real, quality play time with him, and speak life over him, so much about our days would be different.
So for the rest of our day, I decided to exercise my new perspective. I looked for the good, and found it. I built him up with my words and gave lots of hugs. And although he was still naughty here and there, my ability to deal was greatly improved. Isn’t it amazing how much our perspective alters our reality. Perspective is an incredibly powerful thing.
Instead of being irritated and overwhelmed, I noticed his imagination as he played with his helicopter by our window. I noticed the bond he has with his daddy. I noticed how smart he is and his eagerness to learn. I realized how incredibly proud I am of him as he wrote his name on our frosty glass front door. He is smart and his imagination is endless. He loves his family and although his personality is difficult, I am certain it is because he will be a leader among his peers.
He pushes me. He challenges me. I’ve always called him “my little refining fire” and he probably always will be. But acknowledging the role my perspective plays is crucial to the overall health of our home life. It’s my job to rise above, to take time outs as well as to give them, and to raise him well. It’s a huge responsibility that I never want to take for granted.
Are there areas in your life where you feel overwhelmed, frustrated, or without hope. My challenge to you is to take a time out. Reevaluate your perspective and see what YOU can do to improve the situation. Remind yourself of the “why” behind what you do. What’s the bigger purpose and how well are you living out your calling? Do you need a time out too?
Until next time we chat, follow the Light.